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Mar 7

A friend and I were texting before dawn, sharing Hubble images of this spectacularly vast, alive universe. OMFG the wonder. Earth alone is f*ing epic, much less the parade of galaxies. And the body is that too: the infinite, unutterably magnificent expression of creation. It’s astonishing that anyone could be confused about the divinity of reality at all scales when we’re standing here in and as THIS.

And yet many are confused about our cosmic sweetness, and choose to harm creation.

Standing for this beauty, even when for many people it seems invisible or immaterial, is our promise to life. Even when society’s miracle-blindness stuns us enough to drag us off course for a moment… we come back. We return to reverence.

Many of you are righteously rage posting right now and that’s fine. There’s a lot to be disgusted by. I implore you: ground the rage in love, not fear, and take care of your spirit. Put your head to the ground each day. Feel the beauty each day. Cook nourishing food. Protect a child, a forest, a pet, an elder. Create something. Be with your feelings. Find others and dance it out. Place your attention deliberately on what is beautiful—or you risk burning out, collapsing, or being pulled deeper into the polarity you oppose, and thus perpetuating the very cycles you’re resisting.

We can respond from alignment with the vastness, the beauty, the wonder, the life that cannot be harmed by the ignorance of the world... and witness not from inside the polarity, but from the frequency of the love that is creation.

We can hold our signs and signifiers grounded in the wonder of this living universe we’re standing inside.

Because: the Sombrero Galaxy (photo: NASA - National Aeronautics and Space Administration)

Hare Om Tat Sat.

All Love,

Christine Marie

Holarchy is the Only Way Forward

This post might surprise you (as I founded, funded and run a women’s health and sexuality company, and have written an entire library of content and books on women’s embodiment) but while I utterly celebrate the MAGNIFICENCE of women, I I think Holarchy is the only way forward.

A holarchy is not a world in which gender has no meaning or difference is erased in the name of equality. Mistaking sameness for justice creates its own distortions. A holarchy is a living system in which every part has genuine dignity, voice, and accountability, and in which differences are generative rather than hierarchical. Yin qualities—receptivity, relational intelligence, cyclical knowing, the capacity to hold paradox—are not subordinated but partnered with Yang qualities. Power moves from wholeness rather than dominance.

Men and women are no longer projections of fear, desire, or absence: they are actual people. The feminine and masculine, in whatever proportions, are not enemies but two great movements of a single life. Holarchy is the social and political form that emerges from this understanding: neither principle dominates, but each makes the other more fully itself.

I would like to see less polarization and more of the edge conversation that happen in encounter spaces to be held in mainstream environments: women and men sitting together safely, speaking the truth about what has been done and received across the long, tangled history of gender, and really listening, without defense, without counter-claim—to what lands on the other side. I want that act of repair, demanding and exacting, because it is only there that something new becomes possible.

In gender, harm is often inherited, enacted within a system neither party created. Reconciliation let’s us holding both accountability and pattern recognition: I did this, and I did this within a current that predates me. Men and women both speak and note the costs carried across generations. This can reach places personal apology alone just can’t.

Here’s what happens in gender reconciliation spaces:

Men Are Most Often Asked to Acknowledge:

Violence and the threat of it: Women organize their lives around the presence or threat of male violence—street harassment, domestic spaces, war, systemic rape. Apology is for acts and the atmosphere created.
Sexual violation and enabling culture: Centuries of treating women’s bodies as property or objects, blaming the victim, and institutional dismissal. Apology for systemic normalization of violation.
Dismissal of women’s knowing: Women’s intelligence—embodied, relational, intuitive—was discredited. Apology for suppressing a whole register of knowledge.
Appropriation of labor: Domestic, emotional, reproductive, creative, intellectual, and spiritual work taken or erased without recognition.
Abandonment: Physical or emotional absence, or presence without engagement, leaving women and children to reorganize their lives.
Failure to protect: Silence or inaction when harm was visible; loyalty to male solidarity over basic decency.

What Women Are Most Often Asked to Acknowledge:

Policing other women: Judging or constraining other women, turning the instrument of oppression onto the nearest target.
The queen bee/closed door: Using hard-won power to block others rather than change oppressive conditions.
Passing conditioning to children: Raising boys and girls under inherited scripts that perpetuate gendered limitations and emotional suppression.
Mother wound delivered to sons: Conditional love and emotional withdrawal that shapes boys’ sense of worth, affecting their future relationships.
Indirect power and its cost: Using subtle influence—guilt, withdrawal, manipulation—because direct power was forbidden; causing real harm.
Covering and enabling: Protecting men from consequences, often from confusion or self-interest, leaving others unprotected.

The world this work makes possible is not utopia, but a system operating closer to its actual nature. The historical hierarchy between masculine and feminine is not natural or inevitable; it is a constructed arrangement that has cost everyone something essential. Change requires more than legislation or institutional reform—it requires the willingness to look at each other, speak the truth of what has happened, and receive it without collapsing into defensiveness or despair. In rooms all over the world, women and men have arrived with decades of accumulated wound and left with an unexpected tenderness for the other side. That tenderness is the ground of holarchy. Everything else—structures, systems, policies—can be built on it.

We are each and all of us half our mother and half our father, it is a biological fact. In Hinduism, Shiva and Shakti are one, indivisible. This parallels the christian mystery, where the disembodied G*d and the embodied female Mary conspire to create the sons and daughters of the earth, as the christed consciousness: there is no creation, no material reality without both male and female in equal measure, acting as one. Let’s create the world from this knowing.

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