The Bee Sisterhood with Nicole Fox

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Show Notes

What if sisterhood wasn’t sentimental—or competitive—but a living, breathing field of healing? 

In this episode, we explore the Bee Sisterhood and The Hive Agreements: a brave new way of relating that asks us to see one another not as rivals or mirrors of our wounds, but as catalysts for each other’s wholeness. Our guest, Nicole Fox, is a force in the field of functional medicine, with over 24 years of experience transforming the way healthcare is delivered and understood. A trusted advisor and collaborator to many of the top thought leaders in integrative and personalized medicine, Nicole blends science, soul, and strategy in everything she does.

Holding a Master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology, she has a rare gift for bridging clinical expertise with the deeper realms of healing. Nicole is the co-founder of a thriving integrative family practice in Temecula, California, and the founder of a consulting firm that empowers visionary businesses and educational platforms to integrate the healing arts and spiritual intelligence into their work.

As Chief Operating Officer of the Personalized Lifestyle Medicine Institute, Nicole brings cutting-edge education in functional, integrative, and personalized medicine to hundreds of thousands of healthcare professionals across the globe—helping to shift the paradigm of modern healthcare. 

Nicole opens the door to a different kind of hive—one built on belonging, mutual uplift, and a shared prayer for harmony.Listen in, then grab your copy of The Hive Agreements and let these teachings move from concept into lived practice in your own circles, communities, and everyday life.

In this episode, we cover so many topics, including:

  • (00:00:00) Understanding the Sister Wound

  • (00:02:55) Tantric and Yogic Perspectives on Sisterhood

  • (00:05:57) Introduction of Nikki Fox and Her Journey

  • (00:08:53) Defining Positive and Negative Characteristics of Sisterhood

  • (00:12:05) The Formation of the Bee Sisterhood

  • (00:15:25) The OG Bees

  • (00:18:28) The Hive Agreements and Their Impact

  • (00:23:11) The 6 Hive Agreements

  • (00:26:33) The Concept of Sacred Selfishness

  • (00:33:58) The Prayer for Harmony and Broader Vision

  • (00:37:02) Learning from Bees and Practical Applications 


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Transcript

Nicole Fox  0:02  

And there's been times like where we've gone into, like, really dark places inside of our lives, and to be willing to share that without feeling like somebody's going to hold us in that vibration of that's who we are, like, maybe that's something that we're experiencing or something that we're showing up, but it does not mean that's who we truly are. It means that's what's happening in that moment.


Christine Mason  0:25  

Hello everybody. It's Christine Marie Mason, and this is the Rose Woman Podcast today. We're talking about sisterhood. We're talking about agreements for how to heal the sister wound. My beloved friend Nikki Fox is coming on to discuss this, but I'll give a little preamble about the sister wound in general. And case you haven't really put words to it, in your own life, if you have women in your life, if you are a woman, if you have sisters, if you have mothers, you'll recognize this phenomenon and culture. It refers to the deep relational injury women carry in their relationships with other women, an internalized pattern of competition, betrayal, of jealousy, judgment and distrust rooted in patriarchal conditioning. I know there's that word again, keep saying it, but the core dynamic is that under systems where women's survival and status and worth are dependent on access to male approval, resources or protection, other women often become competitors rather than allies, that survival level


Christine Mason  1:32  

competition gets encoded as instinct, weariness, comparison, subtle undermining, the withholding of genuine celebration for another woman's gifts or success. And it can show up in things like difficulty trusting women's circles or feeling safe in them, or being a guy's girl, or reflexive comparison, am I too much? Not enough? More or less than her? It can show up as betrayal by a close female friend or mentor that might echo older ones, even mother ones, they can show up as subtle sabotage, gossip, social exclusion or difficulty receiving or giving genuine praise to women. Peers can also show up as loyalty or being a front woman for patriarchal structures in instead of being in solidarity with other women, and we've certainly seen that in some of the political front people in this current administration, the deeper layer is that it's activating on top of a mother wound, which we're going to talk about in a couple of weeks, and that for many people, the first female relationship to the mother carried a sort of conditional love and a competition for the father's attention, or a scarcity consciousness and sometimes activating in women's circles can even re stimulate that original injury. In the tantric framework that I often talk from, or the yogic framework, the sister wound is connected to the fragmentation of Shakti. It's the feminine force when it turns against itself. It's not a sentimental sisterhood, but the actual capacity to witness another woman's radiance without contraction, to be witnessed in return is a genuine spiritual joy and accomplishment. It's not that we're forcing a solidarity here, but we are willing to feel the contraction that arises sometimes in women's company, trace it and choose differently. The idea that women perpetuate patriarchy through their behavior is not a new idea. You know, it's well documented in the area of feminist sociology and Gender Studies, shaming women for their sexual choices, criticizing women who don't conform to femininity norms, judging mothers who work, or judging mothers who stay at home, enforcing dress codes on other women, all these forms of policing or internalizing hierarchy, like believing men are inherently more capable in certain domains or deferring to male opinions even when a woman is equally or even more qualified, or using diminishing language on the self, or attributing one's own success to luck rather than competence. These are all ways that women are perpetuating the patriarchy, socializing children into gender roles by reinforcing different standards for sons or daughters, praising girls for appearance and boys for achievement, which we've talked about in some of the earlier episodes, sometimes even making political and institutional choices, like voting against policies that support women's economic independence or bodily autonomy, or opposing labor protections like paid leave. If you really want to dive into the academics on this, feminist theorists like Bell Hooks, Adrienne Rich, they've offered some really good information on how you as a woman, or I as a woman, might get real benefits like protection and status and belonging for complying with the way things are. How. We're socialized from birth into these patterns before we can critically examine them and how horizontal oppression, where you know, people who are in the same tier sort of reinforce the system that they're part of, but once we see it, and particularly in a culture like this, where finances or status or belonging are no longer predicated on the relationship with the masculine, we have some opportunities to really shift the framework and then be in a richer dialog that allows all of our beloved brothers, husbands, fathers, sons, co workers, colleagues, The Magnificent, creative minds that are in masculine bodies to also live into their fullness. So as we're deconstructing it in ourselves, and as we're learning how to be better, sisters, take this hierarchy out of us, it's really beautiful to find women who are in the trenches living a new kind of sisterhood, and that is what we have on the show today with Nikki So Nikki Fox is a Californian mother of twins. She's really a deep soul, as you will learn in this episode, she is also one of the best kinds of friends a woman could ask for please welcome Nikki Fox.


Christine Mason  6:25  

I'm so glad to welcome my beautiful friend, Nikki Fox, also incredible professional person running medical clinics and things like that. But in this context, my friend and my sister, one of the traits I love about you the most is that you have exhibited consistently across the years, the love and kindness and outreach, like how to be a good friend, your most, most wonderful traits. And so when you told me that you were writing this book, The Hive agreements, and when you were even before that, when you were working on the bee sisterhood, I felt like you were tapping into something that was essential in your soul's purpose. And I wonder, even before we get started with sort of how this particular station of it came about, if you could talk about, sort of your youthful relationship, you're growing up and coming up relationship with other girls, sisters, you know, etc, and sort of what might have set the stage for this early in your


Nicole Fox  7:20  

life, I it's just what you had said. I feel like my whole life has built me up for this moment, and thank you for saying that is about what type of friend and sister I've been for you. But it was interesting, because growing up, I was the youngest, and everyone had kind of left. My sister had moved out, my parents had gone through a divorce, and they weren't really around, and so my friends literally became my family like that. What I made my friends mean at a very, very young age was filling a void that I wasn't really receiving from a family, and it had a lot of positive things that I think have built my life and how like we can what we can be for one another, but also had a lot of really negative pieces too, about me, really leaning in and needing other people's approval, and what other, what other, especially probably women thought of me, really made me validate how I felt about myself. And so it's been this, like, long road of like, working through that to really, like, be in relationship for women and like, redefine what true sisterhood is, probably from that place that started early on. But it feels like this has been my, my personal mission for myself, and it's been so important, and it's been very deep. It's been such a healing like redefining sisterhood and redefining what it is to be a friend and just community. It's, it's just been, it's been a really profound thing in my life, for sure.


Christine Mason  8:55  

Yeah, there's some common beliefs about, you know, what is the sister wound? We need? A couple of them, like competition for one and vying for the male gaze or vying for the parental gaze. I mean, there's some things like that. But what would you say are the defining positive and negative characteristics of these different kinds of sisterhood?


Nicole Fox  9:17  

Yeah, well, when you talk about the sister wound, I think that's like a really important thing for us to talk about, because it does live like so deep, and I believe that we've been trained so young into how we relate with one another, and how it showed up for me, and I talk about this a little bit, is that for me, I either would see really beautiful, powerful women, and I would put them on a pedestal, and I would make them separate from me, because that they would be like so up here, and something I would like long to be for, for myself. Or it would be the opposite, where I would like cut them down to make myself feel good, right? So it would be kind of like this energy of of comparison and seeing like where I fit am I. I up here? Am I down here? And it would be a way for me to know exactly where I fit in. And that has completely transformed, because what I'm seeing now is that we are all each other's mirrors, like we are all here to show each other aspects of ourselves. And so if we're putting somebody on a pedestal. Really, what we're doing is we're inviting ourselves to rise up, like, that's what I believe, like the rising, like, grow, come up here with me, sister. Let's look at each other in the eye. If I look at you and I see something that's, like, really powerful and beautiful or amazing, or, you know, like, you're so creative, Christine, you know, instead of making me separate. Like, Christine is creative, I can believe, like, Oh, she's showing me where I am creative as well. And so, like, we literally can be each other's mirrors, and that can be in the in the shadow as well as the light, right? So if I'm going to say something negative about somebody else, I also get to look at that inside of myself and see where, where am I, whatever it is that I'm saying about somebody else, where is that true about me and for me to go deeper into myself and that we truly are each other's gateway into ourselves?


Christine Mason  11:11  

That's so beautiful. That's one of the core principles of frequency, by the way, right? That if you see something that you love in someone else, then you praise them, you uplift them, and in doing so, you draw more of that energy to yourself. So it also works on a quantum to uplift others. Plus, it's just fun, right? How much better does it like to go around uplifting people


Nicole Fox  11:32  

than to be like, Oh, that was me totally and then it's also like, wow, I didn't know this about myself. Like, Oh my gosh, if I'm saying this about her, then that just means she's showing me something about myself, like, Thank you for showing me how beautiful and bright and amazing I can be.


Christine Mason  11:48  

Yeah, longing, it's like it's a pointer to your own longing, and your desire is like an animating force for activating Shakti, for activating in the world.


Nicole Fox  11:57  

So good. Yeah? And what a different way to respond, right then the other way, where we used to compare, cut each other down, or if someone was too bright, that was like, you know, for me, I'll design my own stuff. At a certain point in my life, when women were so bright, I felt very like I couldn't be that bright inside myself. And so, like, this new way of being has been so supportive and really me, learning to love and accept myself and to like, deepen into my own relationship with me and with the divine. And so it's but I was never taught that nobody ever showed me that way. And I think that this is something that's been lost, and I think it's so important, and it's definitely an invitation for all of us.


Christine Mason  12:36  

So you go from this generalized this is a personal inquiry, and like many people who have a long arc personal inquiry, it gradually solidifies into something. Can you talk about the spark of the original movement of the bee sisterhood?


Nicole Fox  12:51  

Yeah, so we were in a retreat. Nobody really knew each other. It was the intention of the retreat was really healing, self healing, and for us to deepen into ourselves. And I we all remember, there's four of us who started this movement together, but there was a bunch of women that were actually there when this whole thing started. And what happened was, is how I remember it was, I was having this experience where I was just like feeling a lot of inner doubt and sadness, and I was just kind of sitting by myself, and this woman, this woman walks up to me, and she asks me, can I put my hand on your back? And so I was like, Sure. So she puts her hand on my back. And the next thing I know, there was like five or six other women who started to come over, and everybody just kind of started to put their hand on one another. And as they we were all sitting there, one of the women that was with us, she started to buzz, like she just started to hum, which was so random, right? Like it came from nowhere. And the next thing I know, like all the women just start humming. But the humming, it was like this beautiful song, but it really felt like a vibration, like a bee, and we all started buzzing, and we were doing it for a couple of minutes, and then we all started to laugh, and it just like completely transformed the energy of the moment. But what I remember experiencing my body was like this deep sadness and this pain that I like I couldn't move all of a sudden, was being transmuted by this humming of all these women, and I didn't realize it at the time, but what has happened since then? Feels like there was actually like a frequency that felt like there was something that a gift that was handed to us, that literally has taken many, many years to integrate and to understand, but we have now created something. It's a movement called the B sisterhood. Tell me about the four of you. So we're all different in our traits. You know, like, I've been in the functional medicine world for 26 years. A couple of them are coaches, very creatives. We have a hairstylist who's also a beauty expert who's really great about, like, really helping. Women to identify colors and how it resonates inside of their own systems and beauty and like, we all come from definitely different backgrounds.


Christine Mason  15:09  

Do you find that the skills that you bring to the founding sisterhood, from a personality standpoint, are also common, or you're different, like, no nicknames, like, this is the gnome. This is the eagle. Like, how do you not because you're all bees.


Nicole Fox  15:24  

I mean, we are all so completely different, but there's something about us that just works, you know. But we have, inside of this whole platform, we've really been leaning into learning about the bees and about the universe and about divine. And there's been this whole path of us really diving in deep into our sister, but also with universal laws and all of it. And so we've really tapped into the different directions. And what we've realized is that we each hold each of the directions very solidly. So for instance, I hold the direction of the North, which is the fire. It's the inspiration. I'm the one who's like, that big idea person, the one who's always like, we should do this or try this. You know, I'm always the one that's really bringing the fire and and also, I do seem to hold the energy of the brain like the mind. I'm very strategic. I'm always thinking, Amber, she's one of the sisters. She holds the direction of the East. She's so creative, she's so spiritual, she's so magical. She's like a mystic, you know, she's amazing. And so we she really holds the vibration of spirit, but also the air, like she holds the element of like the wit, you know, then we have Sasha, who holds the direction of the South, and she's so soft, and she has the biggest heart, and she holds the element of the water. And then we have Jennifer, who holds the direction of the East, and that's the direction of, you know, the planet. She really connects with the trees and the land. She's like our fairy, you know, but she also is all about the body. When you connect with her in many different containers, she's the one who's like, getting people to move and to like, really feel. And so it really like we all are so different, and we really do hold our directions, and it does bring magic. So you call yourselves the ogbs. We call ourselves the ogbs,


Christine Mason  17:21  

as you imagine this movement growing, do you see that framework of the four directions, kind of being at the heart of all the other hives?


Nicole Fox  17:29  

I think we do introduce it into some of the things that we've done with like retreats and some and all that, but it's not as important. It's more just for us that we have identified it for ourselves, you know, so that as we're like leaning into what's needed, we can really feel into what's needed and who holds the frequency or the vibration or the need of what's being called forward. Sometimes we need that fire and sometimes we need the water. It's just really been supportive.


Christine Mason  18:00  

So you move from this moment with them, and it starts to coalesce into the bee sisterhood, and then into the hive agreements. Can you talk about how that process unfolded?


Nicole Fox  18:11  

Yeah, so we started practicing it too with one another. And again, like I had mentioned, the vibration of the hive that first retreat that we went to, it took many years for it to actually integrate, but when it started to happen, a lot of downloads started coming through it, and it had originally started, I believe, with me writing all of the agreements that were coming through in which we were actually already practicing with one another. So for the like, the last four years, we get on a call with each other every single week for probably somewhere between two to four hours. And inside that time, we're really, like, practicing these agreements with one another and how we relate within one another, but also in how we share our lives, and then also, like, it's really supported, I'll just say for me personally, like it's really supported me in letting go of the things that aren't serving me, because I know there's like, this container that's holding me in these agreements that is completely supporting where I'm headed in my life. And so these agreements, they they originally came from just writing them down and then us fine tuning them and working them together with no other intention than what we wanted to build with one another. It was never an idea of like, Oh, we're trying to build something to share with the world. It was really It all started with us and how we wanted to support one another in our own friendship, in our own sisterhood that is so


Christine Mason  19:42  

conscious already. I don't know anyone else. I've never met another group of women who consciously wrote down agreements for their friendship. It was insane.


Nicole Fox  19:51  

One of the agreements is we will never see each other small no matter what, and we're spending this good amount of time. Time, every single week, sharing what's transpiring inside of our lives, our dreams, what we're trying to aim for. And there's been times like, where we've gone into like, really dark places inside of our lives, and to be willing to share that without feeling like somebody's gonna hold us in that vibration of like, that's who we are. Like, maybe that's something that we're experiencing or something that we're showing up, but it does not mean that's who we truly are. It means like, that's what's happening in that moment. And to have people to be able to say, like, I am claiming that I am going to see you in your highest vibration, even if you are not presenting this way, is like, one of the biggest gifts somebody could give to me. I'm trying


Christine Mason  20:41  

to imagine what that would be like in the world, where you move from the frequency of complaint and fault to seeing everybody in their highest vibration, but yet can name Hey, are you noticing this pattern? But that the between you is if someone names that, you know it's coming out of upliftment and holding someone to their highest self, not out of criticism. There's a certain open heartedness that's required on both sides for


Nicole Fox  21:05  

that to work. What we've seen, and this is the invitation, like, this is the experiment, is that we've seen what it's done with us for right? But what would happen if we created these six agreements together, and that if all women agreed, like, you know what we're going to live by these agreements, what could transpire on this planet, what's come through this is the bigger vision of what we're all committed to, and that's a world of harmony, like we really want to create a place where we can all live in harmony, where we all belong, where we all get to exist. Nobody has to change who they are, to belong. Our bigger vision of this is like, let's create an experiment that if we all choose that we're just going to practice. It doesn't mean like, I am a perfectionist in these agreements. I always get it right, but I'm going to continuously practice and bring these practices into the way that I show up in the world. What would be able to transpire, not just in my life, but the ripple effect that if we all did this on a planetary scale, and my biggest dream is that women like from Israel and Palestine can sit together with one another in a circle and not try to change each other. What would happen if I can disagree with you, and I can be so hurt by whatever's happened in my life, and you could, you know, vice versa, and we can sit together and we can have compassion for one another, and we can live in harmony. It does not mean we have to agree, but it means that we can have compassion and we can still love that we are different and that we all belong.


Christine Mason  22:43  

Profound. I know of people who are doing that, Israel, Palestine, person to person diplomacy and now for decades, and it's so potent. But yes, when you if you're working on the same architecture of what you believe and what you're here to do, that seems very, very feasible. Can you, can you speak to let's, let's go do a couple of the agreements, which is the one that is the easiest for you personally to live into.


Nicole Fox  23:08  

So can I just read you what they are each one? Okay, so there's six of them. So the first one is we are sacred and whole. The second one is we all belong. The third one is we honor ourselves and each other. The fourth one is we learn from each other. The fifth one is we live sustainably. And then the sixth one is we are stronger together. And so to answer your question, I think I've gone really deep into all of these. And like I said, it's a continuous practice. You know, sometimes I'm like, really solid in one of these agreements, and sometimes I'm like, Oh, wow, I am completely out of sustainability in this place, like this is where my work is right now. But I would say the one that has been the easiest for me to really lean into is probably agreement number four, which is we learn from each other. I feel like I am always learning from, you know, not just my sisters, but all women. Yeah, as my affection for sure, learning


Christine Mason  24:15  

from each other, both by what you do and what you don't do, 100% Yeah, and cognitively also, okay, tell me the one that's hardest for you?


Nicole Fox  24:24  

Hmm, I think my hardest one was agreement number one that I've been working on and is that we are sacred and whole. I know I feel like for me personally, I mean, but like I said, I'm doing really good work inside of this. But this one, I believe that I came here on this planet to learn to love myself like this has been my journey, and I'm doing a really good job, Christine, but this has definitely been one of the places that I think has been, you know, for myself, just really learning to know that I am safe. Great, and I am whole, and then I am not broken, and that nothing needs to be fixed, and that I am perfect, just as I am.


Christine Mason  25:06  

That is the heart of Tantra, my friend, that your essence, you know, you might have had some weeds grow over it, or some topiary missteps that have caused you to twist away from your original essence, but it's still right in there, and that any quote, unquote, self improvement is letting those things fall away from you, not that there's actually anything to be foundationally fixed. So I'm loving that that's in there, but I and I can see that I know a lot of people resonate with that. If I examine my own experience, like, where do I not feel whole complete. You know, there are definitely some places where self criticism more a sense of being in the gap or having not for me, it mostly comes up as not living up to my potential. That's where the self criticism mostly steps in, like sort of a feeling


Nicole Fox  25:56  

of regret. Well, it's funny, because, you know, where it shows up for me is like that overachiever, like I got to do more, prove more. Like, if I keep achieving and doing great things in this world, then I know that, like I belong, I deserve to be here, and that I am that sacred and whole, you know? And so it's a practice. This has been a really deep, amazing journey for me, and just like looking at the agreements, I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm doing good. But there's some places like, yeah, there's places that I get to continue to look at and continue to do my work and and see where I'm being called. Sure, one


Christine Mason  26:33  

thing I want to double click on is sacred selfishness. I mean, I read that and I got, like, a really big wave of resistance. What came up for you well, like self care, is one thing being selfish feels like being self centered, which doesn't feel generous or in flow, and that that language just feels really charged for me, and I wonder if we could talk a little bit more about what it means to be selfish. Yeah, let's go. So, okay, my first hit is to really treat yourself as if you're a well that needs to be replenished and and cared for in order to be able to give and that without, you know, taking accountability and responsibility for your own sovereign experience, for your own self care that there is nothing to give. That's one interpretation.


Nicole Fox  27:25  

Yeah. Well, I believe that one of the things, like the sake sacred selfishness, is that I think as women, we are trained to give so much of ourselves away. You know, whether it's to our husbands, to our children, to our work, and by the end of the day, they're just exhausted and they have nothing left for themselves. And so I think, like the sacred selfishness is really like putting yourself at the top of the totem pole. Like, what would happen if we actually really did fill up our own cup first and we overflow from there. Like, what would we have to be able to give to not just our families, but to the planet and so, you know, like on the airplane right, putting on the mask for you first, that that doesn't necessarily always make sense to us. But what if we build ourselves up so much, and we source ourselves from that place where we're so full, then we're able to actually give from a place of fullness authenticity. It just feels like it's a completely different energy than what we've been trained to do, and again, like it's really easy to give ourselves away, but at the expense of ourselves. Like to do things at the expense of ourselves versus doing what's authentically, really needed, so that we can take care of ourselves first and then come from that next place.


Christine Mason  28:48  

Yeah, beautiful. Do you do that?


Nicole Fox  28:51  

Yeah, I'm definitely practicing it. I have come very, very far, and it like, where it's showing up for me is sacred, no, like, how many times in my life, and I you hear this from all women all the time, how many times do we say yes because we're we're wanting to, like, be there for others so much that really we want to say no, but we say yes. How many times are we doing things that aren't actually, authentically where we want to spend our time or our energy, but we do it again, because we're trying to to be accepted, or we're trying to get that love that we're needing, or taking care of somebody else's needs before ourselves. It just, I think it's such a normal thing for women to do. But what would happen, and I've been experiencing this as I'm, like, really surrounding myself with more powerful women, is what would happen if more women actually said no when they say no and said yes when they actually mean yes, like there would be the sense of trust with one another that we would know, like we're all actually spending our time and doing our energy in ways that is 100% in alignment. Nobody is sacrificing. Does that make sense?


Christine Mason  30:04  

Yeah, we do a lot of twisting to belong. You know, saying yes to things that we don't want to do. For sure, the failure you're not wanting to disappoint someone by giving them a no seems, in the short term, like you disappoint them. But in the long run, no, in the long run, you're saving a lot of trouble for both of you, and probably doing relationship preservation by speaking your truth. When I first moved to California, when I was in Chicago, I planned a lot of dinner parties and events, and I sort of developed a model for who if I got RSVPs, like, 95% of the yeses would come, like there would have to be a really big problem for someone to cancel, and none of the no's would come, and 10% of the maybes would come. When I got to California, it was like 60% of the yeses come, 10% of the no's changed their mind at the last minute and come, and none of the maybes. But it took me a while to sort of dial in the formula. So I bought the right amount of food, you know, and but I always wondered, like, like, what is that ability to sort of be, what's right for me now in the moment, like, if I show up to your event and I'm just a big glum bucket and not going to be good for either of us, versus, sort of the ethos that says I make my commitments, I keep my commitments, and then in the long run, I become a dependable person. But if you make the promise to keep your commitments, then you have to get more and more careful with the commitments you make, or you end up depleted. And so for a while, I was doing this like everything I say yes to I'm going to do until I learn how to be more precise with my yes and no.


Nicole Fox  31:44  

Do you feel like you do a really good job of always saying no, no?


Christine Mason  31:51  

Because I've been inculcated with the idea that that if you just work harder anything done mine, there's a form of arrogance in


Nicole Fox  32:01  

that, yeah, but it's just, like, going back to what you were saying earlier, you know, it's like you've been doing such a good job of, like, really honoring yourself and taking care of what needs to be taken care of, that you're hoping that everything just kind of falls into line, like you're, you're the way it feels like, like you're fully in alignment with yourself.


Christine Mason  32:19  

Yeah, I've been like, I'm just saying it's there's still a little quality of manageable thinking, you know, I've been, I had dated for a long time on enough someone who was the biggest workhorse I ever met, and I was like, wow, he can. It was like a quality that I just admired so much. He can go from morning to night. He can move atoms around like nobody's business, you know, and that if anything needed to be done, it was like, we're on it without complaint. We get everything done. And then I realized that our ability to work together transplanted, like it pushed out of the way our ability to play together. And I think that there's something in this yes and no and work ethic and play ethic that is definitely worth exploring, like, if you're making the commitment to one another to support, support each other's goofiness, risk taking playfulness, in addition to your your more serious dreams and and things that That's probably also a good mark of friendship.


Nicole Fox  33:23  

Yeah, definitely. So tell me,


Christine Mason  33:24  

tell me more about the other agreements.


Nicole Fox  33:27  

Well, I think, like, the one thing that I would like to just really bring into this conversation is, like, going back to this idea around harmony, like, what does harm? Because we have these agreements. And, like, I had shared with you. They're all very sacred, and they can all move us in different directions. But the bigger idea is really around harming like we're in a place I feel that, I think most of us will agree, in our on our planet, where there needs to be some changes, there needs to be some shifts, and so like, what can we do together to try to create those. I mean, I'd love to read you just our prayer for harmony. If you're okay with them, I would love Thank you. We have these agreements, but it's something bigger. It's not just about these agreements. It's about what we're trying to create with them. So the prayer for harmony is, may our bodies, hearts, minds and spirits be open to create harmony within ourselves, each other and our world. May our buzz begin now, a quiet, sacred, sovereign sound, embracing wholeness as all of you is welcome. Here may our buzz grow as we call in the north east, south west, fire, air, earth, water, a cohesive blend to create honey and miracles. May our buzz harmonize, honoring choice, attuning us to love, interconnection, interdependence and cross pollination, may it connect us as one heart to another. Co creating the frequency of harmony for all the way of the hive, blessed be. Feels like really important for me to share this with you, because, like, the agreements are great, because each one can take us down a different path inside of ourselves, like one of them is that we agree to create sustainable lives. Because one of the things we've learned inside of our own personal container is that, how can we create a sustainable world if we're not personally creating sustainability within ourselves? And so each one of these agreements is like really designed to create harmony. And so if we can create sustainability for ourselves we can create a sustainable life and a sustainable world, and that's the goal right now. We are not living sustainable as a race. It's time for us to try to create some change. And how can we do that? We can only do it within ourselves,


Christine Mason  35:56  

as you, as you step into the feeling tone of harmony with other women, with your sons and your partners and the men of the planet, you know, what are the first movements to harmony?


Nicole Fox  36:09  

I feel like the first movements into harmony is for us to stop trying to convince each other that our way is the right way. I believe that when we really get to harmony is that we are agreeing not to agree, but that we can all coexist. Harmony does not mean that I have to believe everything that you believe and that you have to agree with everything I agree with. Harmony means that we both get to coexist and fully receive each other right where we're at, and honor each other like I can. I can completely disagree with you, Christine on a million things, but I could still honor you, and I can still accept you just exactly who you are in right this moment, without me needing to change anything that, to me, is hardly and that is the goal.


Christine Mason  37:02  

Well, I love that as a goal. Tell me how, to what degree the book is really tied to the way bees live.


Nicole Fox  37:08  

So we do not claim to be bee experts, by any means, but it's been a really fascinating experience because, as we've been going into this frequency ourselves, and we're calling us the beast sisters. We started to learn about the bees, and we started to actually see where they can teach us so many ways of being about the cross pollination and about harmony and cohesiveness and like collaboration. And there's just so much that bees have, and the importance at their vibration. Their vibration is like their buzzing is at the frequency of love, like it's one of the most healing things on the planet. What does I mean by that?


Christine Mason  37:50  

Their buzzing is at the frequency of love? What does


Nicole Fox  37:53  

that mean? They're the hurts. They're at 528, Hertz, their buzz, which is the frequency of love. Not only that, beekeepers are some of the healthiest human beings on the planet because they're around the vibration of this hurts. They they're it's like their bodies are actually healing because of they're in the presence of the bees. So as we have been calling ourselves the bee sisters, we've been like, let's start learning more about the bees. And so we actually have found so much wisdom in what they do that we've been able to, like, kind of weave it a little bit into the book. But it's not because we're bee experts, but it's because we believe that there's some great things that we can learn from the bees. And as you dive into what the bees have. I mean, it is, it is phenomenal to see what these little creatures can do. They can produce so much honey, so much abundance, and they do it in a sustainable way like we can learn from that.


Christine Mason  38:56  

Well, I want to hear what you personally have found now that you're four years into this, just some of the outcomes for you personally and outcomes from other women that have been following these agreements. What have they reported


Nicole Fox  39:11  

to you? Well, I've had the privilege to hold a lot of circles with women where we've been bringing these agreements into we've been building these eight week hives, and inside of the hives, each week, we dive into a different agreement. We just have done some self exploration together. What I've experienced was that there's been this a lot of these women, they show up and they're so afraid that they don't belong. They they're afraid to share their authenticity and of who they really are, and I think that they've been taught and they've allowed themselves to show up with a belief that sisterhood and friendships with women is dangerous. They're. So much of that that exists. And in my experience of bringing this, what I've witnessed is that there has been a healing for a lot of these individuals in their they're realizing like that they have so much to give and so much to receive to other women, and that in leaning in, there is this magic that is available to them in a new way of relating to one another. And that is one of the things that I've personally witnessed and that I've gotten to witness with other women inside of these types of containers.


Christine Mason  40:39  

Well, I wish you the best of luck on this book launch.


Nicole Fox  40:42  

Thank you so much, and thanks for your support and your love. I always feel it, and I'm just so grateful for you. Appreciate you. Love you.


Christine Mason  40:51  

Thank you so much, Nikki, for joining us today. I hope that your book, The Hive agreement, reaches all of the women that it's intended to reach, and that we can all drop more deeply into a new way of relating to our sisters. I personally am making the commitment to uplift everyone in their highest and best energetically and if possible, with acts of service and meaningful material support. This is the rose woman podcast. Thank you for joining me as always. It is my utter joy and pleasure to amplify the voices of people who are bringing more love, liberation, understanding alive in the world. You can visit rosewoman.com to find products for your body and your home that support the mission of the show. Rosewoman is a company that I started in 2018 it's family run business. Everything's organic and beautiful and and very effective, starting with Volvo, vaginal care, body care and beautiful, organic scented vegan candles and soaps and things like that that really do some little magic spells in the home space, may you live in utter alliance with life and be enchanted until next time you.

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